Thursday, April 12, 2012

I'm A Working Mom

Yes I am a working mom and I am proud of it!! Let me just start off by saying I have no problem with stay at home moms... I think it is wonderful if that works for your family. I have plenty of stay at home mommy friends! We recently got a phone call from our adoption agency with some disturbing news. Its seems that the agency we have been working with has a vision. The founder of this agency has a vision to place children in home with Stay At Home Mothers. Now we have been working with this agency since October of 2011 and just now April of 2012 they are telling us that they won't be able to continue working with us because I have a job and I am not a stay at home mother! Yes you read all of that right because I have a job they won't be able to continue working with us! They have known all along that I had a job they have called me at my work. It is on our application form that I work I have a letter from my employee for our dossier. We  have read over all of the papers we signed with this agency and no where does it say anything about placing children in homes with stay at home moms. Its talks about placing children in homes with loving caring christian families which we are.  I think the fact that upsets me the most is that there are over
and because I am not a stay at home mom this agency won't work with us...??...  Does this make since to you?? I know it sure doesn't make since to me. With a number like 147,000,000 I think finding families with stay at home moms would be the least of my worries if I were an agency. (which may happen someday but that's another blog post and will have to wait until my kids come home) 
I think placing them in loving, caring christian families would be my most important goal! 

There are plenty days when I wish I was a stay at home mom but that doesn't work for us. To pay our bills and to be able to adopt it takes both of our incomes. I honestly don't know a lot of people that are stay at home moms. Most stay at home moms still work! They cook, clean, laundry, carpool, help at school the list is endless.... Yes I do all those things as well and yes some days its hard to juggle but we do it and we make the best of our crazy life!

The Census report for 2010 estimates 5.1 Million stay at home moms in the United States  yes I said 5.1 Million Stay at home moms that just 142 Million moms shy of solving the Global Orphan Crisis! 

Yes there are days when I forget things. There is even this one mom not naming any names who forgot to pick my her child up at Spanish club. This other mom threw her child's yearbook form away and ruined his life but luckily she is on PTO and pulled a few strings and got his yearbook ordered. And just today this other mom was picking up her child from preschool when another mom says to  her "are you coming to the 5th grade DARE graduation today".... What graduation she didn't know anything about it... But she did manage to leave her job and show up and surprise her child for his graduation! 

Just because I am a working mom doesn't mean I am not a good mom. Its what we choose to do and it works for our family. It also doesn't mean I won't be a good mommy to some children in Haiti that currently don't have a mommy. 

Maybe I haven't put my child to sleep in my desk drawer like this picture but I can guarantee I have sure brought my kiddos to work! And they have loved it!! Going out to the shop and seeing some Big Trucks is sure to be fun! And playing with moms pens and paper and sitting at moms desk that is the coolest!! 

I personally love this! I sale Thirty One in my free time! and this is there motto! I love it!! 
The Proverbs 31 woman is a virtuous woman.
A wife, mother and business woman...all knitted into one.
— Her character as a wife —
10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
— Her devotion as a homemaker and generous person —
12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for servant girls.
16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
— Her influence as a teacher —
26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
— Her effectiveness as a mother —
27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
29 "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all."
— Her excellence as a person —
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Many days you might feel like this when you have been home with the kids for a few days! lol.... But we all love our kids even when they drive us crazy! 

'I love going to work since it gives me more of a place to relax.' by Delgado, Roy

'How soon can I return to work? About fifteen minutes ago.' by Parolini, Elmer

The bottom line what I am getting at here is Yes I am a working mom and because of this we are left to now find a new agency. What does this mean for our adoption process well its another step more papers to probably fill out and the biggest thing is more money and more time! The agency we were with had a very reasonable rate and we loved that about them! We have been talking with some other agency's today at this point there is only 2 that we know of that we can work with that our orphanage will allow us to work with and it is looking like we will have to pay an additional $6-10 thousand dollars!! Yikes that is not what we wanted to hear! The funny thing is I am not mad about this obviously god wanted us somewhere else and I am trusting him if we do have to pay more money he will also provide. Understanding his plan his timing this is all something I don't think will ever make since to me however I do know that he loves us more than we can ever imagine and he loves our kids more that we could ever love them. 
He will see them home and it will be all on his timing and his plan!

Psalm 118:8

“It is better to trust in the LORD than to put 

confidence in man.” 

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